One morning last week started with a simple argument with my husband that turned into an argument between my husband and my emotions. Now that the moment is over, I look back and wonder why I reacted the way I did. I let my emotions do the talking for me.
I know you have those days too… when the smallest thing makes your eyes well up with tears… when you take a comment way too personally… or when you feel insecure for no real reason.
When it’s all said and done and your emotions have settled, you can’t help but wonder if you’re a crazy person.
First of all… you are not alone. I have those days and other moms do too.
I’m here to tell you, you’re not a crazy person. You aren’t unstable, and you’re not losing your mind.
Being a Mom is Hard
Being a mom takes a toll on us physically and mentally. Sometimes that means temporarily losing ourselves to our emotions.
Every day we worry about things other people don’t worry about. We remember everything… like which days to pack a lunch, how many pairs of clean baseball pants are left until some need to be washed, when that field trip form is due and so much more. This isn’t taking into consideration what we have going on personally, within your relationship, at work, etc. There’s just so much, and we hold it all together so well.
Our mom brains are one of our super powers, but they can only work so hard before there’s a malfunction.
Malfunctions can take on many forms for moms, and that includes our emotions running wild. Sometimes the malfunction happens because we’re more stressed than usual, we don’t feel well, we need exercise, something else is out of wack, or all of the above.
And sometimes, it happens just because…
So You Freaked Out. Now What?
Don’t Beat Yourself Up
Ugh. This is so me. I exhaust myself worrying about it. But why??
Just don’t. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Everybody has bad days, days that just don’t feel right, or days that don’t seem to make much sense. The best thing to do is move forward.
What Really Happened
Breathe. Take a minute to decipher what actually happened. Is it possible you overreacted or took something personally that wasn’t meant that way?
What Could You Have Done Differently
How could you have reacted differently?
We can’t change what others do, but we can change what we do.
For me, this means having the wherewithal to stop in the midst of what’s going on and analyze how it is meant versus how I am perceiving it, so that I can react in an appropriate way rather than an emotional one.
It’s hard to stop yourself once that flood of emotion starts pouring in. It’s like a muscle. The more you exercise it the stronger it gets.
Don’t Let Your Emotions Do The Talking For You
Emotions are wildly powerful. They will beat you every time if you let them.
I’m not saying being emotional is bad. It is 100% okay to be emotional and explore all of those feelings, but you don’t want your emotions to determine your actions.
I hope you enjoyed the post! Let’s help each other… let me know how you deal with emotional days and emotional freak outs below.
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